Mixed Up Priorities

Mixed Up Priorities

It seems to me that people today have their priorities all kinds of mixed up. I read one female's post today where she said she would move from her current state to the state she is likes more BUT her BOYFRIEND doesn't like it. Boyfriend?? You are letting your favorite dick, who is not your (legal) HUSBAND, dictate your life? To me that's unthinkable. I've been married to a guy like that and am now very happily divorced for nineteen years. And I've been a dumb bitch like said female much later for someone I loved. Dumb because he wouldn't have stepped over a puddle for me much less go out of his way for me like I had done many times.

So please gals, and any dudes that behave just as stupidly, DO NOT be acting wifey (or husbany) to a lover if you aren't legally married to said person. Do not shack up. Do not squirt out kids for him. Do not let him or her dictate where you live, where you work, where your kids stay, if you can have pets, what your hair color is, the length of your hair, if you have facial hair (dudes), if you shave your private bits or not, your weight, your finances, et al. Set boundaries people! They are your LOVER not your legal SPOUSE. Even if they are your spouse they shouldn't be controlling you. You two should be working as an equal team, as a unit, and only only like this once you two are legally married to each other. When you let a lover rule you and use you like this you are devaluing yourself.

They will not value you more because you let your boyfriend or girlfriend boss you around, the opposite happens. Love and value yourself enough to to set healthy boundaries and stick to them. If they actually love you they will work with you and build with you, not own and control you. Until you are legally married YOU are responsible to no one and nothing for the decisions you make in your life.